How to ask them
Pick the moment
Not during an argument. A walk or a long drive works well.
One at a time
One deep question can fill an hour.
Answer too
Share your own answer, so it's a conversation.
Deep questions for couples
Deep questions aren't for every night. Save these for a long drive, a slow dinner or the end of a good day, and ask one at a time.
- 45 questions
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- 01What's a moment when you felt really seen by me?
- 02What part of yourself do you still hide from me?
- 03What's a fear about us you've never said out loud?
- 04How has loving me changed you?
- 05What's something from your childhood that still shapes how you love?
- 06When do you feel the most alone, even with me?
- 07What does forgiveness look like to you?
- 08What do you think is our biggest strength?
- 09What's a conversation we keep avoiding?
- 10What do you need from me when you're grieving?
- 11What would you want me to know if you couldn't tell me later?
- 12What does commitment mean to you on a hard day?
- 13What's a version of us you hope we become?
- 14When did you feel proudest of us?
- 15What's a hurt from the past you want us to heal?
- 16What do you think I need that I don't ask for?
- 17How do you know you're loved?
- 18What's something you want us to protect no matter what?
- 19What's a dream you'd give up something for?
- 20What do you hope people say about our relationship?
- 21When was the last time you changed for the better because of me?
- 22What's one promise you want to keep forever?
- 23What do you think we'll be grateful for in twenty years?
- 24What's a question you're afraid to ask me?
- 25How can I love you better this year?
Deep questions for long-term couples
For couples who want to keep learning about each other.
- 26What's something about me you understand now that you didn't at first?
- 27What season of our relationship was the hardest, and what got us through?
- 28What's a habit we built together that you love?
- 29What do you miss about who we were when we met?
- 30What's something you've let go of for us?
- 31How have your dreams changed since we got together?
- 32What's a moment you knew we'd make it?
- 33What do you still want to discover about me?
- 34What's one thing you'd tell couples just starting out?
- 35How do you want us to grow old together?
- 36What's a tradition that's become ours?
- 37What do you appreciate about me that you rarely say?
- 38What's something you'd like to try together for the first time?
- 39How do we take care of each other differently now?
- 40What's a memory you want to make this year?
- 41What do you think keeps us close?
- 42What's something we should forgive each other for?
- 43What's the best decision we've made as a team?
- 44What do you want our next chapter to look like?
- 45What's one thing you'd never want to change about us?
How it works
Ready in about a minute
- 01
Open the game on a TV, a laptop or a projector. The screen shows a six-digit code and a QR code.
- 02
Everyone scans the QR or types the code at LivePartyGames.com. Nobody has to install an app or make an account.
- 03
Every phone answers in secret, then the big screen shows what the room picked.
Questions
Good to know
What are deep questions to ask your partner?
Questions about fears, forgiveness, what makes you feel loved and what you want your life together to look like.
How many should we ask at once?
One or two. Deep questions work best slowly.
Where are lighter ones?
Our questions for couples page has fun and date night questions.
Keep reading
More ideas for the night
Get the party going tonight
Open it on the TV, share the code, and ask the first question in under a minute.