How to have the conversation
Pick a calm moment
Not during an argument, and not right before bed.
Listen to understand
Repeat back what you heard before you answer.
Make it a habit
A short weekly check-in beats one big talk a year.
Relationship questions to ask your partner
The questions that keep a relationship healthy aren't romantic. They're about chores, money, alone time and what you each need on a bad day. Ask them when things are good, and the hard conversations get easier.
- 65 questions
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- 01What do you need from me when you've had a hard day?
- 02How do you know when I'm upset, even if I don't say so?
- 03What's one thing we do really well as a couple?
- 04What's one thing we could do better?
- 05How do you prefer to settle a disagreement?
- 06What does trust look like to you?
- 07What's a boundary that's important to you?
- 08How much alone time do you need?
- 09What does a fair split of chores look like to you?
- 10How do you feel about how we handle money?
- 11What's something you need to hear more often?
- 12How do you show love, and how do you like to receive it?
- 13What's a habit of ours you'd like to change?
- 14What do you think makes a relationship last?
- 15How do you feel about the amount of time we spend with friends?
- 16What's something from a past relationship you never want to repeat?
- 17What's one thing that always makes you feel safe with me?
- 18When do you feel most connected to me?
- 19How do you want us to celebrate wins?
- 20What do you think we argue about most, and why?
- 21What do you want our relationship to look like in five years?
- 22What's a promise you want us to make to each other?
- 23What's something you're scared to bring up?
- 24What does being a team mean to you?
- 25What's one thing I do that you never want me to stop?
- 26Where do you see us living in ten years?
- 27How do you feel about marriage?
- 28Do you want kids, and if so, how many?
- 29What does retirement look like for you?
- 30City, suburbs or the country?
- 31How important is it to live near family?
- 32What's a career goal that might change where we live?
- 33How do you want to handle holidays with both families?
- 34What's a big trip we should save for?
- 35What would you want our home to feel like?
- 36How do you feel about pets in the future?
- 37What's something you'd want to do together when we're old?
- 38What's one financial goal we should set together?
- 39How do you picture a normal weeknight in five years?
- 40What traditions do you want to carry into our family?
- 41How would you want to handle a big move for one of our jobs?
- 42What does a good marriage look like to you?
- 43What scares you most about the future?
- 44What are you most excited about in our future?
- 45What's one thing we should start doing now for the life we want?
- 46How are you feeling about us this week?
- 47What's one thing I did this week that you appreciated?
- 48Is there anything on your mind you haven't told me?
- 49What's stressing you out right now?
- 50How can I help you this week?
- 51Did anything I said or did bother you lately?
- 52How's our balance of together time and alone time?
- 53What's one thing we should plan for next week?
- 54Are you getting enough rest?
- 55What made you feel loved this week?
- 56What's one thing we should stop doing?
- 57Is there a decision we need to make together?
- 58How are we doing on the goals we set?
- 59What's something fun we should do soon?
- 60What do you need more of from me right now?
- 61What's one thing you're proud of this week?
- 62How are you doing with friends and family?
- 63Is there anything we keep putting off?
- 64What's one thing I can do tomorrow to make your day easier?
- 65On a scale of one to ten, how was this week for us, and why?
How it works
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Open the game on a TV, a laptop or a projector. The screen shows a six-digit code and a QR code.
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Everyone scans the QR or types the code at LivePartyGames.com. Nobody has to install an app or make an account.
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Every phone answers in secret, then the big screen shows what the room picked.
Questions
Good to know
What are the most important relationship questions?
How you handle disagreements, money, alone time and what you each need on a bad day. Those come up every week.
How often should couples check in?
A short weekly check-in works for most couples: five questions, fifteen minutes, no phones.
Should we talk about the future early?
The big ones (kids, marriage, where to live) are worth asking once things feel serious, before big decisions.
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